Brew Chick Asks:

Do you feel comfortable being in a relationship with a woman who is friends with most of her exes?

Would you worry that she’s smashing them on business trips and the like?

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BIG IN EUROPE: I don’t mind a woman keeping in touch with her Ex’s because I’m not worrying about her cheating on me, cause we ain’t in a relationship anyway. I don’t *do* relationships cause people ain’t shit.

Elphie: Jeez… someone give this dude a hug–be careful, he’s an ass grabber.

SUPREME: I’m not an insecure dude like that, so as long as it’s already been established before we got together that she’s faithful and trustworthy, why would I be upset that she’s friends with her exes? All relationships don’t end bad – hell, I’m friends with MOST of my exes. And my girl knows there’s nothing to worry about. It’s not like I go spend the night with them or engage in activity that would raise her eyebrows…and I would expect her to not do the same. As long as we maintain honesty throughout everything (as I do in my relationship now), there’s no worries on my part. She’s with me every night anyway, and we know what each other is up to for the most part cuz we keep in touch during the day via text or phone call.

PHLIP: No, not really… The problem with “exes as friends” is that they seem more interested in being the “dick in a glass jar,” and in such disrespect the relationship in how they often flatly state things like “I’mma get you back” or something of the sort. If boundaries can be respected, then all is fine, but if a dude doesn’t stay in his lane then he must go.
Alone time is a strict HELL no. In the interest of fairness, I would expect the same in return as it relates to my female friends and exes/old jumpoffs. The past is the past for a reason, leave it back there.

GROSS DUDE: I automatically assume everyone is friends with their Exes.  I also automatically assume that most Exes will still want to hit it. Hell, I’m friends with most of the women I have dealt with at one time or another…. and yeah..most I will still hit…just because. But that being said…. I’m not the hypocritical type. I’m just going to trust her to NOT sleep with her ex… same way I would hope she trust me NOT to sleep with anyone Ive dealt with. B/C as easy as it is for her to get with those fellas.. rest assure…I”ll get mine.

Elphie: Get your what? Kit o’HIV?

REGGIE DA’BLOGGER:I once dated a young woman that was friends with all her exes, I trusted her emphatically because she was so open and honest about most everything.  She always seemed genuine and she was the type of person that would be honest, even if it hurt someone’s feelings.  Since I trusted her, I was okay with her having so many male friends; and I trusted her right up until the time she gave me gonorrhea and crabs…I guess at the same time. Of course, that kinda jaded me to trusting that type of woman again.  Now I prefer my significant other have a bunch of girlfriends.